Belonging neither here nor there

“Twelve thousand miles of it, to the other side of the world. And whether they came home again or not, they would belong neither here, nor there, for they would have lived on two continents and sampled two different ways of life.” Colleen McCullough, The Thorn Birds 

But do we actually need to belong somewhere? or maybe we can be free birds, flying from a country to another, experimenting different lifestyles, embracing other cultures, meeting new people and reinventing ourselves every time we land. Nevertheless, there will always be that place called home which we’ll terribly miss, that specific taste of traditional food which we won’t find even in the finest restaurants, those certain words that heal the scars on our soul.

The beginnings are bitter sweet, mixed feelings and emotions storm in your heart, in your mind, keeping you awake for many nights. You wonder if you made the right choice, if you chose the right people, if the sacrifices you make are worth it… and they do, they always do, even if your eyes and mind can’t see it, you know it in your heart.

Time goes by and you realise that all your worries have diminished, your biggest fears have become accomplishments, strangers have turned into your closest friends, streets that used to be unknown and cold are now taking you to your new home, so you think it’s time to settle down.But that’s not it, is it? It would be too easy. You miss all the excitement, all those questions that you couldn’t answer. You miss the new and everything that comes along with it, and it makes sense because once you’ve experienced the taste of living as a foreigner, you will always want more. Need more… A thirst than cannot be quenched.

100 reasons to stay and another 101 reasons to leave.

Next thing you know, you’re staring at your one way ticket, leaving everything behind, cutting all the strings, praying that this flight will change your life once again in the best way possible. You now have new goals to achieve and new perspectives, you have a new you, you are a changed person.

And that’s ok, because you don’t belong anywhere. You are not defined by a single place anymore,  footprints of all the grounds you’ve ever walked on are all over you, shaping your mind, influencing your decisions, giving you the answers you need.

Living abroad is not easy, but it is an exquisite journey and we are fortunate enough to be able to experience it.

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